There's Something About Mary

I dedicate this post to all beautifull Portuguese women, that abounds around. (portuguese version)

Pretty woman, exotic style. Many male candidates. Everywhere she goes, atracts all the looks.

Everybody wants to know her, ask her contact. She’s not interested. Anyway, they insist. Curiously, the Cutest guys, are the less insistents. Realize quickly, they’re not getting anything from her, they got lost. The “other” ones, in opposition, insist till the end of time. Think they win for exhauting her.

Mary is extremly shy. Uncapable of refusing nicely. “Mid Word is enough” – Portuguese Proverb. That is, the silence reigns. “Who’s quiet, don’t agree” – a proverb invented by me.

They became infuriated. If she didn’t want to chat, to be a friend, wouldn’t give the contact email, in the first place.

And this is the part, i interfere, i put my finger on: would you be less offended if Maria would have said at first sight:”No, i don’t want to meet you! No, i don’t give you my contact, go way, please”.

But it was you that insisted, remember?

If you look to a very atracting woman, it doesn’t mean you’re “looking in the mirror” and she sees the same as you see, in the other side. Capishe? Or do you want me to put you in a center of explanations?

Would you like to have dozen of female candidates, who you don’t find them atracting, chasing you, even after you tell/demonstrated them you’re not that interested?

Ps1.Sorry, for the machist guys. Hope you won’t think i am bitch feminist. If i were a men, i would think exactly the same way.

Ps2. This story is not about me, is based in someone else. But if you indentify yourself about it, toward me, be free to think it. I would never descriminate anyone.

Ps3. Mary’s of the world, I’m with YOU!

Leaving Nest …

There’s a big difference between man and woman concerning leaving nest. Maybe woman are more independent than man, that normally are called with that adjective – man independent only if you are talking about emotional, out of feelings…

Single woman, is capable of beeing alone emotionaly, to manage an house alone, like washing the plates, cleaning cloths, ironing them, pay the bills and leaving them updated, to cook, arrange the house and full other activities….

Yet, men, when living alone, that’s because of one of 3 reasons:

- divorced or separate (they only left nest to marry or to live with someone. These are who bravely don’t return to maternal home. Because, there are some that return …)

- unstructered family – divorced parents or absentee family or inexistently. They don’t have any hipotese other than spend their budget….

- single : On of 2 situations:

1- Lives alone but dependent on mamma, which brings food and washed and ironed cloth.

2 – Has an house of his own, but the only furnished area is the sleeping room, i wonder for what? He goes only there to sleep, ofcourse, it’s the only playfull area in the house. The spare time, lives in parent’s home. Eih and spend hollydays with parents like a child do, and who never grows up…

Where are the guys who leave home by independence, for whishing to be autonomous, raise their proper family, although this family could be only, his only self?

This is a society fault, that protects too much, man from domestic duties, making them not capable of managing an house. Still exists in many families the concept, that woman should do the “minor” tasks, imposed by society. Who wants to live in a chaotic place?

Besides all these, there are others that simple don’t leave nest until 35 year old, because is much better to be in mamma and pappa, which in turn, pays the bills, the food for them,etc. If I would be that way, I would, have a wonderfull salary, a little fortune by now, and would have a top car to impress colleagues at work…eih and a top mobile phone…lolololol

For this all, i run into the conclusion, that man simple can’t be alone. They enter in any relation abruptaly, even if they don’t like their match that much. Alone, never! They got used to their mothers. Their girl, only substitutes their parent…It’s an inhabit not being alone, not autonomouse and not out of nash…

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ps. This is portuguese reality. Don’t know if it is the same cenario in outer places.